-=> Quoting Michael Loo to Nancy Backus on 07-03-19  10:04 <=-

 >  > My first thought, but then thought perhaps there was more to it...
 >  ML> Unlike what some people like to think, I do not always 
 >  ML> have ulterior motives (sometimes, maybe, but not then).
 > Oh, I know...   I just try to not assume, at least as much as
 > possible... 
 ML> Oh, sure, and it's almost flattering that you
 ML> looked for a logical justification of some kind
 ML> for plain old boneheadedness.
 
Hey, ya just never know... 

 >  >  ML> The first dates are Saturday and Sunday of the
 >  >  ML> echo picnic. The working conditions are okay
 >  >  ML> and the money is more than okay, but she'll have 
 >  >  ML> to do without me for at least the first weekend.
 >  > Gotta keep your priorities straight, after all... You can join them
 >  > for the second part....   Sounds like a nice gig... 
 >  ML> We shall see. Four digits for her.
 > Pretty nice.... 
 ML> And the music isn't either obnoxious or difficult,
 ML> though Ms. Anker wnts some of the pieces transposed.
 
Depending on the key, that shouldn't be too bad....

 >  ML> It's monkfish liver - the Japanese poach it (in
 >  ML> sake sometimes) and press it and chill it, and it
 >  ML> becomes an expensive delicacy. Americans used to
 >  ML> throw it overboard, but now they know that the
 >  ML> Japanese will pay for it. And the Japanese have 
 >  ML> discovered that American epicures will pay for it, 
 >  ML> which creates a bi-linear 360 degree trade.
 > I'll mostly just have to remember to mention them when we're at Fu's...
 > not always an opportunity, especially when things are busy....
 ML> Have you eaten there enough to figure out the
 ML> slack times, when more interaction is possible
 ML> and Fu has time to hear his own thoughts?

Sorta...  It's not as predictable as one would think... sometimes I
expect no one else there, and then it gets busy... or we figure it'll be
busy and it's (at least temporarily) dead....   But there does tend to
be some usual patterns....
 
 >  > ... "Sometimes the only answer to death is lunch." -- Jim Harrison
 >  ML> Okay, that's an interesting take.
 > I thought so.... especially having recently (before snagging it) had the
 > occasion to be at a funeral, which had been followed by the usual
 > food-back-at-the-church (or community room, as the case might be)...  
 ML> It's a common cultural thing, food as consolation
 ML> best taken with kinship as a sauce. The Jews do it,
 ML> the Chinese do it, the Irish are famous for it.
 
Yup... 

 > ... Traditions are group efforts to keep the unexpected from happening.
 ML> Pretty much. I presume that tagline harks back to
 ML> the Fiddler discussion?
 
Partially, I suppose... also the funeral meal customs.... 

 >  ML> She doesn't think she's deaf, and when I compensate by
 >  ML> speaking slowly and distinctly (though not loudly), that's
 >  ML> considered condescending. I'm not sure how to cope with this.
 > Speak a little less slowly, speak distinctly but not exaggeratedly so,
 > and tell her that you are merely trying to compensate for her being hard
 > of hearing...   And that you understand that yelling only makes it
 > harder, not easier, to be understood.... 
 ML> It's hard when someone interprets a rise of zero decibels
 ML> and a greater care in enunciating as shouting. And when one
 ML> points out that one wasn't shouting, the reply is along the
 ML> lines of "but you were thinking shouting."

True, sometimes one just can't win.... 

ttyl        neb

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