-=> Quoting Michael Loo to Ruth Haffly on 06-25-19  08:10 <=-

 >  ML> We're all that way. A couple days ago my friend and I got
 >  ML> in a massive misunderstanding partially based on our being
 >  ML> infantile and stubborn and partially on her claim of "I'm
 >  ML> hard of hearing, not deaf." She's pretty darn deaf.
 > But if you signed to her and she signed back, you might not be able to
 > read it with your eyesight. (G)
 ML> She doesn't think she's deaf, and when I compensate by
 ML> speaking slowly and distinctly (though not loudly), that's
 ML> considered condescending. I'm not sure how to cope with this.

Speak a little less slowly, speak distinctly but not exaggeratedly so,
and tell her that you are merely trying to compensate for her being hard
of hearing...   And that you understand that yelling only makes it
harder, not easier, to be understood.... 

ttyl      neb

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